GOTTMAN METHOD

Gottman Method Couples Therapy is based on Dr. John Gottman’s research that began in the 1970’s and continues to this day. The research has focused on what makes relationships succeed or fail. From over 40 years of research, Drs. John and Julie Gottman have created a method of couples counseling that emphasizes a “nuts-and-bolts” approach to improving clients’ relationships.

This method is designed to help teach specific tools to deepen friendship and intimacy in your relationship. In order to help you productively manage conflicts, you will be taught methods to manage “resolvable problems” and dialogue about “gridlocked” issues. We will also work together to help you appreciate your relationship’s strengths and to gently navigate through its vulnerabilities.

 
 

Prior to the first session, you and your partner will be given some materials to complete that will help us better understand your relationship. During the first session we discuss the history of your relationship, areas of concern, and goals for your relationship.

In the next session, we will meet with you individually to learn about your personal histories and provide each of you with an opportunity to share thoughts, feelings, and perceptions about your relationship. During the next and final assessment session, we will share our recommendations for any further couples counseling and work to define mutually agreed upon goals at that time.

The length of counseling will be determined by your specific needs and goals. Over the course of couples counseling, we will establish points at which to evaluate your satisfaction and progress, and discuss any questions or concerns you may have.

In the later stage of couples counseling, we will begin to “phase out” or meet less frequently in order for you and your partner to test out new relationship skills and to prepare for termination of the counseling. Although you may terminate whenever you wish, it is most helpful to have at least one session together to summarize progress, define any work that remains, and say good-bye.

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CONTACT INFORMATION

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